In the areas of Indonesia most frequented by Europeans, many
are familiar with the strange ways of Westerners. But it is
best to be aware of how certain aspects of your behavior will
be viewed. You will not be able to count on an Indonesian to
set you straight when you commit a faux pas. They are much too
polite. They will stay silent or even reply tidak apa apa (no
problem) if you ask if you did something wrong. So here are
some points to keep in mind:
- The left hand is considered unclean as it is used for cleaning
oneself in the bathroom. It is inappropriate to use the left
hand to eat or to give or receive anything with it. When you
do accidentally use your left hand then say "ma'af, tangan
kiri" (please excuse my left hand).
- The head is considered the most sacred part of the body and,
hence, the feet the least sacred. Avoid touching people on the
head. Go for the elbow instead. Never step over food or expose
the sole of your foot toward anyone.
- As it is impolite to keep one's head higher than others, it
is appropriate to acknowledge the presence of others by stooping
(extending the right arm, drooping the right shoulder, and leaning
forward) while passing closely by someone who is sitting.
- Pointing with the index finger is impolite. Indonesians use
their thumbs (palm turned upward, fingers curled in) or open
palms instead.
- Summoning people by crooking the forefinger is impolite. Rather,
wave downward with a flat palm face down.
- Alcohol is frowned upon in Islam, so take a look around you
and consider taking it easy.
- Hands on hips is a sign of superiority or anger. W' Indonesians
don't blow their noses. Keep a handkerchief handy.
- Take off your shoes when you enter someone's house. Often
the host will stop you, but you should go through the motions
until he does.
- Wait for a verbal offer before devouring food and drinks that
have been placed in front of you. Sip your drink and don't finish
it in one gulp. Never take the last morsels from a common plate.
- You will often be invited to eat with the words makan, makan
("eat, eat") if you pass somebody who is eating. This
is not really an invitation, but simply means "Excuse me
as I eat."
- If someone prepares a meal or drink for you it is most impolite
to refuse.
Some things from the west filter through to Indonesia more effectively
than others and stories of "free sek" (free sex) made
a deep and lasting impression in Indonesia. Expect this topic
to appear in lists of questions you will be asked in your cultural
exchanges. It is best to explain how things have changed since
the 1960s and how we now are stuck with "saf sek."
Bali may seem to have been placed here just for you personal
enjoyment, but it is not a zoo. Be aware of Balinese sensibilities.
Remember the Balinese are offended if the casual visitor does
not dress appropriately when entering a temple. A sash over
shorts and a T-shirt or a very brief top is not adequate. Have
a sarong and sash handy for temple visits and ceremonies, and
wear long pants or a skirt and a decent shirt with collar when
leaving the beach areas.
